We always confuse and not sure who are our real friends in time of need. Do you? I always ask this question who will stick out their neck for me in time of need? Who if there is after all? So far, I have identified a few of my hardcore die-hard mates in college who had been tested over time...in time of needs, they definitely helped me out and in time of joy.. we shared it together. Hey, i miss that moment. But....we have been apart for a few years since I moved to england for uni. Would they change? Will they be the same as I always want them to be? Will everything be as back then? Anyway, the fact that everything changes over time, will not surprise me if they do change. I change, and it will be naive if I assume they dont change! Dont ASSUME cause when u assume you make an ASS out of U and ME = ASS-U-ME! see.....that's a logic behind that! hahaha
So, once if u are ever and ever be sure that he/she is your friend, how can u be sure that's just as much as it will go? U like him/her but does that mean u love him/her? Hmm..that's a real dilemma... i will never ever want to get into that kindda awkward situation. Imagine.. BUT I have been there and I am sure most of you people had or worst is you are into that kindda disaster NOW. Wheuuww.....man..God bless you then. I will say dont spoil your friendship and trade it for something that you cant be sure of. I am not an expert in this complicated field BUT definitely I know the limit for this thing. I have been there before and I screwed all of them. So for now, if you like or potentially love somebody, stay away from word friend..let them know or just give them hint, no friendship is welcomed...either bring it on or bugger off! hahhaa..not in that sense of course... anyway..dont listen to me or you will end up like me.. hahaha...you know wad..
With love,
XXX
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Friendship or Love?
Well, I should say...
Such a great thing to know that you can define friendship in that way... That is what we so-called "stay" when we need them without asking them to stay... and "share" happiness without any envious feeling inside...
why i am trying to comment here is because just like what u said "friendship" this word has a probability to grow and support those who are in the heart of it, but it also has a chance of change or even vanoshed if there is not enough effort to maintain it...
But in some ways, I disagree with your thoughts on staying away from the word friend, if someone have potentially love a person... Well, as what I have in my mind now is that if someone love his/her friend that will not become a complicated relationship as what you feel. Why I said so? Coz it only depends on whether those two friends also feel in the same way or not--will it able to change someday or never..?
However, in this situation we cannot judge what feelings that a friend has, without trying to check out what his/her 's feelings yourself.
If love does not begin with friendship then how? n i belief that couple that cannot act as friend between them, it will not keep goin...
In addition, what you told about hints right? It seems too vague to applies (especially in relationship).
Try to think about...
When people giving hints to someone (any hints:games, puzzles, etc) which you think will work.. I believe that it will work as exactly as we want to, due to different perceptions that people do possess... For instance, a mom always cares about the children and there are so many ways to express it... some will slaps the child when he/she does wrong and then give a long boring advice.. but some will only give advice and protect him/her from an invisible manner... which hint or action that shows mom cares? Both right? But, the first hint or action that a mom expresses will has higher chance for a children to conclude mom hates him/her. (that's in children perception.. Think about an adults perception..)
What I think..COnclUsion >> "Love someone in romantic relationship will not ever work if no friendship feeling exists in it because it will become more awkward if someone regards his/her partner only as a partner."
>>>Friendship can be seen as separated stuff from rom rel.. but in rom rel, people also work out problem together share, remember? so, friendship enriches the rom love...
Let's see.. hmm such a long speech huh? Boring??
YEAHH..!! of course... -.-
haha.. :D
it's ok if you don't agree n never understand what i mentioned.. this is only my thoughts... hehehe :p
Do response, k?
cya... :D
Thanks..
I would agree with you on some points that you have put forward. However, sometime I was just too lost to think in that light. I do agree that without knowing a person which here means friendship, you cant just jump into a conclusion that you love that person. Even if that is the case, it may be love of his/her outward appearance rather than the true love of that person inner beauty and this is exactly how I want love to be: love him/her as he/she is, share joy and happiness in time of needs and abundance together. I cant love somebody just because he/she is lovable from outside, and ignoring the fact that I may not like that person's characters and personalities.
Maybe it was because of my previous experience confusing love with friendship and the other way round. Let me not go into details on this :D Maybe living in different environment has also significantly changed my opinion about things altho' I am not sure that this has been the case. Maybe I am just not that good with girl as you know what my problem is here ;) I told you before.
I have to be honest, now I always show a person that I love the care more than a normal girl friend will receive from me. I always set that boundary more or less quite clear if that person knows how to see it. Again, here I am confused whether that person that I love will ever realise or see it? That will be like waiting for something that is hollow in hope. Do you know when that person you love realise that you love him?
Cheers.. :D
I agree with you that maybe it was becoz of the environment and experiences that someone have had in life, which will then influence how someone will react and expect from person that he/she loves.
This is quite complicated, huh? haha.. i've realized it for some time.
Some people might treat one he/she doesn't love in such a way that might make others misunderstand and think that they must be a couple someday.. and it may hurt the person who is treated in that way, if he/she really start to like that person.
In the other hand, to make it easier to understand I take A as girl n B as boy. Some or maybe most A don't know how to let someone she loves realize that she loves him.. this becomes an irony too. But, I supposed this might be not a problem to some A in Western. Other case is just A don't want to show any of her feeling before she is sure that he also love her... Afraid maybe??
Hmm... to answer your question, for me is .."No".. I have promised myself to stop concluding anything from what someone has done for me.(fyi, experience teaches me to do so.. ) Though i used to think that they needn't to say anything to show wad they feel, coz by seeing and noticing.. I would know... But maybe I was just wrong. Although i still have that instinct, I'll just force myself not to beleive it, till I know it thru himself, not by my or others assumptions...
What do u think?
wahh this can become my blog le.. my first parasite's blog..
feeling proud to have parasite here??? :)
~rhyn
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